Capricorn
Bureaucracy develops the more perfectly, the more it is 'dehumanized', the more completely it succeeds in eliminating from business love, hatred, and all purely personal, irrational, and emotional elements which escape calculation.
Max Weber
The conversation you keep postponing has turned into a system for avoiding itself. You have developed careful protocols for when to bring it up, what conditions need to be met first, which version of the other person would be most receptive. The machinery of preparation has become so elaborate that it now serves a different function than the one it was designed for. What started as a way to handle something difficult with care has become the reason you never have to handle it at all. The conversation is waiting on the other side of all your reasonable conditions.