Cancer
One of the disadvantages of almost universal education was the fact that all kinds of persons acquired a familiarity with one's favourite writers. It gave one a curious feeling; it was like seeing a drunken stranger wrapped in one's dressing gown.
Vita Sackville-West
The expectations you carry that feel most natural are often the ones that were never actually yours to begin with. Your body knows the difference before your mind catches up, the way your shoulders tense when you agree to something that sounds reasonable but sits wrong. These borrowed shoulds have a particular weight to them, heavier than the ones you chose for yourself. You can feel them in the pause before you answer a question about what you want, the slight delay while you sort through which voice is actually speaking. The week ahead asks you to notice which expectations make you feel like yourself and which ones make you feel like you are wearing someone else's clothes.